Paying the tab

We all meet people for lunch. And if you've read the book, "Never Eat Alone," you may even make it a philosophy.

One of the challenges is the question of who pays the tab. We all want to be polite (see those entries), but there are some things to consider with this item.

If were invited, usually the person who invited you is the host, and, unless something else is agreed to, then they pick up the tab. If you did the inviting, you should pay teh bill.

Of course, if you haven't discussed who is to pay, when the bill comes, always reach for your wallet and offer to pay. If the designated "host" insists, then offer to alternate payment ("my turn next time") or agree to split the tab.

Segments of Seinfeld episodes come to mind here, so be considerate and fair.

As we all know, the meal is just the vehicle for the conversation and the relationship. Not that you shouldn't enjoy the food and atmosphere as well as the company.

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